I don't know how people do it...

I've started working a new gig and I'm not sure how people do it AND spend any kind of quality time with their families.  I know they do.  I'm just not sure how.  Get to work before 9am and don't leave until well after 7pm.  Maybe you get to grab something downstairs at a Cosi or deli that you then take back up to eat at your desk.  Take into consideration the commute and you get home around 7:30 or 8.  Throw together dinner and by the time Rachel Maddow signs off, the wife is asleep and the cat needs to be fed and I'm done.  We're out and in bed by 11pm.  That's 10 hours at work and three hours at home.

And that's not out of the norm.  I am not judging.  I'm just amazed. 

Now, there is part of me that says, "what are we doing?"  What we do has become the definition of who we are.  When we meet someone, we ask, "what do you do?" before we ask about their families, their lives...  It just seems a little odd. 

I don't know how people do it.